Anonymous asked: How do you not react with disgust when some one tells you they are sexually attracted to children, what if it was your child they were attracted to? They should all be shot
The short answer is:
Because all people, no matter who they are, deserve access to ethical, high quality health care, including mental health treatment.
The longer answer is:
It isn’t my job to be disgusted. It’s my job to provide treatment to people who need it- including people who are attracted to children, but also who have all kinds of other sexual fantasies and practices, people who use drugs, who have committed violent crime, who have questionable and even dangerous parenting practices, who have political, religious, and moral beliefs I don’t agree with, and so on. That’s my job. If I’m not okay with that then this isn’t the job for me. It is an extremely slippery slope if I as a clinician begin to say, no, I won’t treat you because of who you are and as a profession I think it is essential we avoid that.
In any case, these are still real people. People experiencing real pain, anguish, and guilt. Often these are not people who have ever offended against children. They are people who don’t want to hurt anyone, who recognize that carrying out their fantasies would hurt people, and want to avoid that desperately. Think about how awful it would be if the only way you could receive sexual gratification- and maybe feel intimate or close to another person -would mean you would have to hurt someone. In other to avoid hurting people, for the rest of your life, you would have to be celibate and alone. Even though you had chosen this- the right thing! -people would still reject you and revile you, because of something you didn’t choose and didn’t want and haven’t followed through with. How awful would that be? I can’t look at a client experiencing that kind of pain and feel disgust. I feel sadness. I hope that I can help them decrease their pain and improve their life, and yes, make sure that they prevent harm.
And I never think violence is the answer. An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, remember.